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Post by UConnChapette on Mar 27, 2017 20:36:24 GMT -5
Mother in law being admitted for pneumonia. At 94, this is a tough diagnosis. But she is a fan of the Huskies and how hard they play and fight for every win. I know she will give it her all.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2017 0:02:21 GMT -5
Mother in law being admitted for pneumonia. At 94, this is a tough diagnosis. But she is a fan of the Huskies and how hard they play and fight for every win. I know she will give it her all. Positive energy and thoughts heading towards you and yours. |
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Post by Icebear on Mar 28, 2017 0:25:40 GMT -5
Mother in law being admitted for pneumonia. At 94, this is a tough diagnosis. But she is a fan of the Huskies and how hard they play and fight for every win. I know she will give it her all. Prayers for her and all of you. |
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Post by radylady on Mar 28, 2017 4:42:00 GMT -5
Mother in law being admitted for pneumonia. At 94, this is a tough diagnosis. But she is a fan of the Huskies and how hard they play and fight for every win. I know she will give it her all. Thinking positive thoughts |
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Post by rockymtblue2 on Mar 28, 2017 7:41:37 GMT -5
Sending energy your way Chapette; you and your mother in law and family will be in my thoughts.
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Post by chicagogg on Mar 28, 2017 10:59:54 GMT -5
Mother in law being admitted for pneumonia. At 94, this is a tough diagnosis. But she is a fan of the Huskies and how hard they play and fight for every win. I know she will give it her all. Sending prayers for mom-in-law and all of you. May she recover quickly! |
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Post by meyers7 on Mar 28, 2017 13:53:33 GMT -5
Mother in law being admitted for pneumonia. At 94, this is a tough diagnosis. But she is a fan of the Huskies and how hard they play and fight for every win. I know she will give it her all. Thoughts and prayers. Hang in there. |
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Post by UConnChapette on Mar 28, 2017 17:57:10 GMT -5
Thanks to all for your thoughts and prayers. "Soph" is doing well, and may go home tomorrow as long as she will consent to 24 hour nursing or home health aide. That is going to be a tough sell.
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Post by samanthabrown3 on Mar 28, 2017 17:59:36 GMT -5
Thanks to all for your thoughts and prayers. "Soph" is doing well, and may go home tomorrow as long as she will consent to 24 hour nursing or home health aide. That is going to be a tough sell. Hope it's not a tough sell. Being home really boosts recovery. |
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Post by rockymtblue2 on Mar 28, 2017 18:08:50 GMT -5
Thanks to all for your thoughts and prayers. "Soph" is doing well, and may go home tomorrow as long as she will consent to 24 hour nursing or home health aide. That is going to be a tough sell. Hope it's not a tough sell. Being home really boosts recovery. I take it the tough sell is some stranger in her house. Been there, done that. |
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Post by UConnChapette on Mar 29, 2017 16:08:37 GMT -5
MIL update...it may have just turned very bad. She casually said to my husband that she would not be coming home - at all. He is trying to reach his older sister who his mother says was there and spoke to the doctor. His mother gets very confused sometimes and he is not sure if what she said is true of if she just misunderstood what the doctor said. More to come. I will move these posts to off topic, since they really don't belong here.
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Post by UConnChapette on Mar 29, 2017 21:05:04 GMT -5
Not good. Likely cancer, but not certain since my MIL does not want any more tests. CAT scan showed a nodule on a duct on her liver, but a much larger nodule on her lung. The doctor said he is pretty sure it is cancer. He says she is dying, and will die of something, and while they can do more tests to confirm cancer to what end? They wouldn't treat it at her age, chemo would probably kill her before the cancer did. She has lost a lot of weight and is skin and bones, and has virtually no appetite. Two or three bites, then she doesn't want to eat any more.
All four of her kids will meet with the doctor tomorrow. My husband has the health care proxy, and doesn't really need his brother's or sisters' buy in, but he does not want to make any decisions without them hearing directly from the doctor themselves and get their input. In all likelihood, they will release her to go home and let her die at home. I suspect there will be some hospice care in the form of visiting nurses to make sure she is comfortable.
Husband is handling it better than I expected. I don't think he is at all surprised. Her quality of life is not great. She is going blind and deaf, can't walk very well, and is slowly losing her memory. He knows she can't live forever. As the child that does the most for her, he has seen how quickly she has deteriorated much more than his siblings see when they come by. She puts on a good front for them, but she can't maintain that with as much time as my husband spends with her.
Maybe there was a reason he lost his job when he did...although, being stupid and getting fired probably wasn't the best plan. But, since he is not currently working, he will be able to spend more time with his mother helping her through whatever days remain.
Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers if you are so inclined.
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Post by Icebear on Mar 30, 2017 0:23:57 GMT -5
Prayers continue for all of you. I can highly recommend the help that hospice can provide you. You and I can talk if you need any info.
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Post by chicagogg on Mar 30, 2017 8:21:13 GMT -5
Sending many prayers your way, for mom-in-law and all of you. Have been in a similar place, and know it is a rough one. Please know you are in my thoughts.
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Post by knightsbridgeaz on Apr 3, 2017 0:40:53 GMT -5
Not good. Likely cancer, but not certain since my MIL does not want any more tests. I suspect there will be some hospice care in the form of visiting nurses to make sure she is comfortable. Husband is handling it better than I expected. I don't think he is at all surprised. Her quality of life is not great. She is going blind and deaf, can't walk very well, and is slowly losing her memory. He knows she can't live forever. As the child that does the most for her, he has seen how quickly she has deteriorated much more than his siblings see when they come by. She puts on a good front for them, but she can't maintain that with as much time as my husband spends with her. Maybe there was a reason he lost his job when he did...although, being stupid and getting fired probably wasn't the best plan. But, since he is not currently working, he will be able to spend more time with his mother helping her through whatever days remain. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers if you are so inclined. I am so sorry to hear this. My Mom died at age 97 on Friday, March 24th. Mom felt the same as your MIL, really from when she was in her 60's - no extreme tests or treatment. Mom's dementia became pronounced at about your MIL's age, and gradually deteriorated until she moved to a memory care home about a year ago. While her final deterioration was very rapid - less than a week - she went on hospice 3 days before she died and it made things so much easier. Probably a similar end as Pat Summitt, sadly. Relatively unresponsive, unable to remember how to swallow, and for the last week, bedridden. So I do strongly recommend the hospice care. And interestingly, I became unemployed (through a merger and complete dismissal of the home office folks at my company) at a time when Mom was beginning to need more help to maintain her house as she wanted to (you could eat off her floors) and when she stopped driving (she was 86). I was able to assist her for 5 years to remain in her own home, until she admitted that cooking was taking her hours and she just wasn't up to it, at which point we moved to Arizona and lived in the same house until my wife and I could no longer care for her at home. You are correct, it at least seems things happen for a reason, because the 2 or 3 days I spent each week with Mom were so great. After we moved, it was different because she was 92 when we moved here, frailer, needing more everyday help, etc. and while we were glad to provide it, it was different; and then, of course, at 94 her mind started to go. Sorry for rambling, but I truly feel your story and sort of wanted to share why, and yes, my prayers are with you and yours. |
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Post by semper on Apr 4, 2017 18:18:07 GMT -5
You are all heroes...such love and care. I'm proud of you.
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Post by rockymtblue2 on Apr 5, 2017 11:50:05 GMT -5
My youngest is a Nurse Practitioner specializing in Palliative Care at Danbury Hospital. I don't know how she does it, but she does. The hardest cases for patients and all concerned are when the family fights the wishes of the patient, or are split about it and the patient has no advanced directive. Sending you my continuing good thoughts.
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Post by UConnChapette on Apr 5, 2017 12:07:38 GMT -5
MIL update: she is in short term rehab to finish the pneumonia treatment and have occupational and physical therapy to get her home. She is adamant about going home. She hasn't said it but I think she knows she is dying. They have a DNR and DNI at the rehab center, and are providing comfort measures only outside of the antibiotics for the pneumonia. She is having a lot of belly pain...upper right belly just below the rib cage so that is likely liver rather than stomach. The are giving her liquid morphine for that pain. She is weak and can't eat much. But they are getting her up and moving with the goal of getting her home. Whether she makes it there remains to be seen. The good news is the whole family is thus far in agreement with the plan.
Thank you all for your thoughts, prayers and we'll wishes. All we can do is take it day by day. And wait for the inevitable.
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Post by chicagogg on Apr 5, 2017 12:31:48 GMT -5
Prayers continue for MIL and your entire family. Please remember to take care of yourself, while you are taking care of others.
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Post by Icebear on Apr 5, 2017 17:32:24 GMT -5
My youngest is a Nurse Practitioner specializing in Palliative Care at Danbury Hospital. I don't know how she does it, but she does. The hardest cases for patients and all concerned are when the family fights the wishes of the patient, or are split about it and the patient has no advanced directive. Sending you my continuing good thoughts.This is most certainly true. |
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Post by samanthabrown3 on Apr 15, 2017 16:00:35 GMT -5
My youngest is a Nurse Practitioner specializing in Palliative Care at Danbury Hospital. I don't know how she does it, but she does. The hardest cases for patients and all concerned are when the family fights the wishes of the patient, or are split about it and the patient has no advanced directive. Sending you my continuing good thoughts.This is most certainly true. I was thinking this when Chapette posted that her husband and siblings were all meeting with the doc, even though he could override them all. Sounds like a strong family. Blessings on you all, especially in this Resurrection season. |
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Post by UConnChapette on Apr 22, 2017 15:58:23 GMT -5
Sophie passed peacefully in her sleep this morning, exactly as she wanted. She is now at peace and free from pain. Though her pain was well managed by the family so she truly did not suffer.
Thank you all for you thoughts and prayers. It means a lot.
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Post by chicagogg on Apr 22, 2017 16:21:55 GMT -5
Chapette - so sorry for your loss. Prayers for Sophie to be at peace, and prayers for all of you who cared for her so well and so long.
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Post by Icebear on Apr 23, 2017 5:40:09 GMT -5
Peace be with you all.
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Post by meyers7 on Apr 24, 2017 13:55:10 GMT -5
So sorry for your loss.
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